It was a three years ago that I originally posted the first version of this blog post… and it went on to be one of the most popular posts on Somekindof50.com.
The pandemic has changed the way we view ourselves, our friends, family and the choices that we make… but as we move back towards normality (whatever that means), for some of us it’s time to re-adjust, re-adapt and even perhaps reinvent ourselves to fit new circumstances, new jobs, new lifestyles. It may be a good time to have look at a self awareness questionnaire!
I regularly write on this blog about confidence, self esteem and positivity, but one of the most important factors in building all of these is Self Awareness. Self awareness is not just about how you see yourself, and what you like and dislike, it is knowing what you want from your life and what motivates you, as well as understanding and owning your beliefs and core values.
Self awareness may help you to better understand others, and how they see you, but most importantly, becoming self aware will allow you to unlock your potential and enable you to move forward positively.
If you genuinely want to make changes in any sector of your life, you need to know yourself first. Sometimes it is difficult to see the wood from the trees and, with all that’s going on, it’s easy to lose our way and struggle to have a clear perception of who we are, what we want and where we are going.
Spend some time answering the questions below. I can’t promise it will be life changing overnight, but it may allow you to identify what areas of your life need work, and therefore give you the tools to establish a new, or amended, strategy moving forward.
These questions are not designed to be super easy. The purpose is that they make you think! Some of them may even be a little uncomfortable, but you don’t have to share your answers with anyone. They are also designed to be a little ambiguous at times, but don’t worry about that. Whatever the question means to you, personally, is what is important.
Some people prefer to do this alone and keep the answers to themselves, but if you have a trusted friend you may like to do it together, as the questionnaire will no doubt stimulate plenty of debate and discussion!
1. Do you enjoy your life?
2. What aspects of your life would you change if you could?
3. What does the life you want to lead look like?
4. Where do you want to be in 5 years?
5. What is your biggest priority at the moment?
6. What do you value in others?
7. From where do you get inspiration?
8. Who are your role models?
9. What do you need to let go of?
10. Who do you need to forgive?
11. Are you on the right path?
12. What do you lie to yourself about?
13. What do you love most about yourself?
14. What do you dislike most about yourself?
15. What makes you angry?
16. What have you done that you are most proud of?
17. What is the biggest lesson you have learnt in life so far?
18. Who or what is holding you back?
19. Are you happy in your job?
20. What are you most afraid of?
21. What is your biggest regret?
22. Do the people around you make you happy?
23. What is the main cause of stress in your life?
24. Are you working towards something?
25. Do you feel stuck?
26. Do you settle for things?
27. What do you avoid doing?
28. How do you think others see you?
29. Do you see yourself as a victim of circumstance?
30. Do you feel mentally strong?
31. What are you avoiding?
32. What are you most grateful for?
33. What is your greatest strength?
34. Do you have any goals?
35. What makes you cry?
36. Do you consider yourself to be motivated?
37. Are you living with/ in a relationship with the right person?
38. What are you ashamed of?
39. How would you like to be remembered?
40. If you had a single wish, what would that be?
41. Do you tend to under, or over estimate your abilities?
42. When things go wrong do you blame yourself, others or a higher power?
43. Do you believe in yourself?
44. Do you have a talent or gift that you hide?
45. Which 5 words best describe your personality?
46. Are you a risk taker?
47. Where is your “happy place”?
48. Do you procrastinate?
49. What makes you feel guilty?
50. What is your happiest memory?
Without self awareness it is almost impossible to make changes in any aspect of your life, but no one is suggesting it’s easy. It can be very difficult to be honest, even with yourself, when answering questions of this nature. Try and stick with it! When you can develop the ability to fully understand your emotions, personality, behaviour and how you react to others, you will grow as a person, which can only have a positive impact on all areas of your life.
“To be aware of a single shortcoming within oneself is more useful than to be aware of a thousand in somebody else.”
~ Dalai Lama