How time flies! I can’t believe how fast this year has gone! I’m sure time speeds up as we get older, and I worry sometimes that I’m not making each day count. I want to live life to its fullest, not wasting a moment, and go to bed every night feeling fulfilled! Maybe that sounds a bit ambitious, exhausting and too much effort, but it doesn’t hurt to remind ourselves occasionally that literally, our days on this earth are numbered.
It’s so easy to get caught up in the business of our everyday lives, thinking that we have decades left to fulfil our hopes and dreams. Perhaps we do… but even so, it’s no excuse to let life pass us by now.
How many times do we find ourselves wishing away a day, a week, or even months, to get to something we are looking forward to. Or sometimes life becomes about going through the motions, just existing or coasting along, waiting for things to happen to us … rather than taking a more proactive view.
As I am probably over half way through my life already, I don’t want to be regretting not having done things. I want to die happy know that I have accomplished all I set out to. I don’t want to look back with bitterness or regret, thinking about past injustices and slights, or feeling hatred towards someone who has treated me badly.
When we are concentrating solely on our failures or regrets, we are not thinking positively about the future. Bad things happen to everyone, but we learn from these experiences, and they make us stronger and more resilient in the future. Dwelling on them and becoming bitter and full of recrimination is the road to misery and therefore probably more regret in the future.
Here are a few thoughts to remind you to live your life every day, to be thinking about your goals, to be taking opportunities and to be considering your potential. To be making an effort to be present in every day and to enjoy the individual moments that each day brings:
Take some time every day to appreciate nature, the world and the people around you.
Spend time doing things that you love doing. If you love cycling or swimming, don’t keep putting it off, resolve to go this weekend!
Imagine how you would feel if you were told you had only 6 months to live. Wouldn’t you try and squeeze every last drop of enjoyment out of every single moment?
Be present in each day – that means less thinking about yesterday or worrying about tomorrow.
Spend less time doing the things that you don’t enjoy. Yes, we all have to work for a living, but organise your week to get a good balance.
Make sure you have control over the important stuff, your job, home and where you live. If you don’t, take steps towards that control.
Decide what is missing from your life and consider how you could change that.
Try not to coast through life waiting for things to happen. Make them happen. Be proactive!
Remember that holding onto hatred or bitterness saps your positive energy. Forgive, forget and move on.
Do stuff that fulfills you. We gain our greatest sense of happiness from achieving. Doesn’t have to be anything major, just something important to you.
Think about what makes a good day and what is important to you. Reassess your values, ethics and morals and how you life your life.
Read my post It’s Never Too Late To … Reinvent Yourself
Think about where you want to be in 10 years. Make a 10 year plan and fill it with places you want to visit and all the things you would like to achieve.
Set yourself a short term project or challenge and see it through.
Try not to spend so much time worrying about small things and everyday annoyances. Will you still be thinking of those things in a week?
Try not to compare yourself to others.
Surround yourself with people who make you laugh.
Slow down and look around you. Breathe and do absolutely nothing for 10 minutes.
Be grateful for all you have.
My favourite quote is Shakespeare’s “To thine own self be true.” I have tried to live my life with that in mind. Adopt your own quote and see if it shifts your thinking.
Be courageous. It’s not easy I know, but hiding away from the world is never going to give you a sense of fulfilment. Trust that there are a lot of lovely people out there (who outnumber the nasty ones,) who would love to see you succeed. I wanted to write for a long time, and finally putting articles out there for the world, (and friends and family), to see was one of the hardest things I have ever done. And one of the best. Don’t let fear stop you.
Think about how you see yourself and how others see you. Are you the person you want to be?
Stop complaining and take responsibility for your own life. You are the only one that can change it.
Remember every day is a brand new start.
A friend mentioned to me the other day that her therapist recommend she start a “life handbook”. What a fantastic idea! It lists her plans, goals, achievements, thoughts and her ‘life mission statement’ on not only who she is, but also who she wants to aspire to be in the future.
Laugh as much as you can. It really is the best medicine.
Let go of the past and forgive yourself as much as you forgive others.
Don’t settle for second best. In any aspect of your life.
Finally, remember that every day you have a choice. A choice to be positive, to be happy, kind and proactive. To love yourself and your life …and make each day count. ❤️
“Don’t be afraid your life will end; be afraid that it will never begin.” ~ Grace Hansen